TGIF
Good morning!How is everyone?Regular fully loaded for me today.My question is if you have had a difference with a family member that caused lots of heart ache and distrust,how do you let it go and when or can you get back into a descent relationship with this person.I am in turmoil about this.Have a great day everyone!Enjoy August!
Good Morning! I'm up getting ready for work and waiting for the babysitter. My youngest had a friend stay the night last night so I didn't get much sleep. I have half a mind to run in there and wake them up and jump on the bed because they were so annoying last night!
QOTD-I have a weird but good relationship with my mom, dad, and brother. Dad and bro are alcoholics and have put me through a ton of bad stuff. Mom is just plain nuts and was not stable when I was growing up. I decided about 20 years ago that I can't do anything to change them, and I don't want to be without a family, so I just let everything go. No matter what happens, I just roll my eyes and get on with it. My family doesn't determine my happiness. If they are acting up and being stupid, then I leave, hang up on them, etc. Then the next time I see them, we act like nothing happened. I have told my sister (who does not have my same attitude) that I accept those nutsos for what they are. If anything were to happen to anyone in my family, I am ok with my relationship. To me, it's important that my husband and kids are supportive and kind. The rest of the family can do what they want.
Wow, pretty deep for an early Friday morning! I hope you all have a great day!!
QOTD-I have a weird but good relationship with my mom, dad, and brother. Dad and bro are alcoholics and have put me through a ton of bad stuff. Mom is just plain nuts and was not stable when I was growing up. I decided about 20 years ago that I can't do anything to change them, and I don't want to be without a family, so I just let everything go. No matter what happens, I just roll my eyes and get on with it. My family doesn't determine my happiness. If they are acting up and being stupid, then I leave, hang up on them, etc. Then the next time I see them, we act like nothing happened. I have told my sister (who does not have my same attitude) that I accept those nutsos for what they are. If anything were to happen to anyone in my family, I am ok with my relationship. To me, it's important that my husband and kids are supportive and kind. The rest of the family can do what they want.
Wow, pretty deep for an early Friday morning! I hope you all have a great day!!
AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
I need to vent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My boss is a total and complete ***** Sorry to say that, but it's true. (I refer to her as another word, but I won't say it here.)
Anyway, she walks in this morning, stops me in the hallway between the sales office and my office and says "The reason you are gaining weight so fast is that stupid water you drink with the vitamins in it. You might think it's low calorie, but it's not. Even if the bottle says sugar free or low cal, the vitamins they put in there can throw your system off and make you gain weight. You would lose weight again if you just drank regular water."
First of all, I don't ever, ever, ever talk to anyone at work about my weight, health issues, or anything personal. So she has decided to comment on me gaining weight all on her own. Plus, the guys in the shop all drink regular vitamin water, so that's not what I am drinking. Oh yeah, as she was walking away from me, she looks over her shoulder and says "The reason I'm so slim and trim is I don't drink that colored water or pop" and then sashays away. It took everything I had to not run up and body slam her!!
Of course there isn't anything I can do about it. It made me so mad. Now I'm not in a great mood and she just came in here blathering on about her new pants she got for her trip. I am in the middle of answering a work email and she gets right in my face and asks me what my problem is. Uggghhhh!
Sorry guys, I know I need to let it go, but I just needed to tell somebody! Thanks for reading (listening)!!
I need to vent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My boss is a total and complete ***** Sorry to say that, but it's true. (I refer to her as another word, but I won't say it here.)
Anyway, she walks in this morning, stops me in the hallway between the sales office and my office and says "The reason you are gaining weight so fast is that stupid water you drink with the vitamins in it. You might think it's low calorie, but it's not. Even if the bottle says sugar free or low cal, the vitamins they put in there can throw your system off and make you gain weight. You would lose weight again if you just drank regular water."
First of all, I don't ever, ever, ever talk to anyone at work about my weight, health issues, or anything personal. So she has decided to comment on me gaining weight all on her own. Plus, the guys in the shop all drink regular vitamin water, so that's not what I am drinking. Oh yeah, as she was walking away from me, she looks over her shoulder and says "The reason I'm so slim and trim is I don't drink that colored water or pop" and then sashays away. It took everything I had to not run up and body slam her!!
Of course there isn't anything I can do about it. It made me so mad. Now I'm not in a great mood and she just came in here blathering on about her new pants she got for her trip. I am in the middle of answering a work email and she gets right in my face and asks me what my problem is. Uggghhhh!
Sorry guys, I know I need to let it go, but I just needed to tell somebody! Thanks for reading (listening)!!
OMG Brenda.....what a *****!! I seriously don't know how you kept yourself composed. I would have gone off on her. Well, not really, I'm not like that, I would have started crying probably. Why would she say somthing like that....it's NOT like you ASKED for her opinion. Some people are just downright know-it all *****es......
Let is go if you can....you are better than her!!
Let is go if you can....you are better than her!!
Nan
HW 300 / SW 280 / CW 138 / GW 140
Hit Goal 4/2/2010
Brenda,
I don't like your boss and I've never met her . . . what a jerk. There is a girl in the office here that has said to me . . "if I had that same surgery I would be much thinner than you are" I want to say so bad to her that you should have the surgery you need it . . but I bite my tongue every-time I see her with her book shelf butt!
People can be insensitive!
I don't like your boss and I've never met her . . . what a jerk. There is a girl in the office here that has said to me . . "if I had that same surgery I would be much thinner than you are" I want to say so bad to her that you should have the surgery you need it . . but I bite my tongue every-time I see her with her book shelf butt!
People can be insensitive!
Kristy
Highest 319/Lowest 180/Current 181/Goal 170
Reading Suzanne's and the rest of your posts gave me the funniest picture in my mind....a whole group of FFF's (former fat friends) waiting in the parking lot after work for my boss and scaring the bejezus out of her! I love the thought!!
Update: There is only one guy in the office that I talk to. I was telling him what our boss said, and he said "Just because you gained weight, that is none of her business". Then he realized what he said and got so embarrassed. He kept apologizing to me all day. For some reason, what he said didn't offend me at all. Probably because I know he did not mean to hurt my feelings.
Update: There is only one guy in the office that I talk to. I was telling him what our boss said, and he said "Just because you gained weight, that is none of her business". Then he realized what he said and got so embarrassed. He kept apologizing to me all day. For some reason, what he said didn't offend me at all. Probably because I know he did not mean to hurt my feelings.
Thanks for the response Brenda.You sound as if you have some of the same issues I have.My mother died about 9 years ago.I tried for years to maintain a somewhat stable relationship with my father and sister and to keep them in a somewhat stable relationship.Lots of hurtful things happening and said,fights over money and belongings and such.Well long story short my father and I got into it again over his manipulative ways and he threatened my family and I physically.We have been to court and everything over this.Now he is a "christian"and trying to reach out to me.I have told my children I cannot make a decision for them but as for me I want no relationship with him.Really unsure as to what I should or feel like doing.Thanks so much for the response though.
Danielle, I can sympathize with you!!
My ex used to hit me and is pretty much just a walking ass. I was married to him for almost 10 years and he was abusive the whole time. Now, because he comes to visit the kids, I have to smile and act like it all never happened. It was hard at first, but I really learned to not let other people's crap bother me. Think about going slow, giving your dad a few hours here and there, and maybe see if he has changed. As long as you are confident in yourself, no one else can bring you down. If it turns out he didn't change, you can always just walk away again, knowing that you tried.
Ok, enough of the Dr. Phil moment!! LOL
Where is everyone this morning?? Hopefully sleeping late!
My ex used to hit me and is pretty much just a walking ass. I was married to him for almost 10 years and he was abusive the whole time. Now, because he comes to visit the kids, I have to smile and act like it all never happened. It was hard at first, but I really learned to not let other people's crap bother me. Think about going slow, giving your dad a few hours here and there, and maybe see if he has changed. As long as you are confident in yourself, no one else can bring you down. If it turns out he didn't change, you can always just walk away again, knowing that you tried.
Ok, enough of the Dr. Phil moment!! LOL
Where is everyone this morning?? Hopefully sleeping late!
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